STEP
4
LIST OF NEGLECT
CONNECT TO
THE NEGLECT
KONICHIWA
And welcome to Step 4 of Module 1.
In Step 3 you learned
that an important first step
in repairing trust with Little You
is to say sorry.
But as you know
sometimes people can say sorry
but you can tell they don't mean it.
And when people
don't really mean the apology,
you don't really feel it and trust them.
So, to make sure your apology
to Little You is sincere and really builds trust
you will do some exercises right now that will help
you more clearly see and understand
why Little You feels so anxious.
LIST OF NEGLECT
First you will go over the List of Neglect.
You already briefly saw the List of Neglect in Step 1.
But now you will go over it more in depth
so you can more deeply understand
what neglect may look like in your life.
CONNECT TO THE NEGLECT
Next you will do Connect To The Neglect.
This exercise will help you more deeply feel
why all this neglect is leaving Little You
feeling so fragile and anxious.
Now while it's helpful to understand
how you have neglected Little You...
again try not to beat yourself up for it.
You didn't know any better.
And being uncaring to ourselves
is what's taught and reinforced
in our culture.
I did it for 40 years till I knew better.
So, it's fine to feel a bit bad/sad
for not loving You/Little You better.
That means you care.
But instead of judging yourself
I invite you to just do your best
to just see this as an opportunity
to just see what isn't working
and want to do better to Little You.
Seeing you try to do better
is all Little You cares about.
That's what helps Little You
trust you and feel calmer.
Which will help you
feel calmer.
With compassion and future calm,
WRAP UP
I hope Connect To The Neglect
helped you see more clearly
why You/Little You is feeling
untrusting and anxious.
This helps you in two ways.
One... it helps you
more deeply understand
that there's nothing wrong with you.
It's just Little You is
understandably anxious.
after all they've gone through.
But also Connect To The Neglect
helps you more deeply understand
how you've neglected Little You.
And how it made them feel.
This helps because when
you do apologize to Little You
your apology will be
more authentic and sincere.
This helps Little You
really believe you and trust you.
So it's super confronting
to Connect To The Neglect
but it's all in service
of you feeling better.
With sometimes confronting care,
NEXT STEP
In Steps 3 and 4 you learned how to
more deeply apologize to Little You.
And you will be doing that daily
for the rest of Module 1.
However to ensure you get results
we need a supportive structure
to help make sure you apply
the exercises consistently throughout the day.
And that is what you will learn tomorrow in Step 5.
You can access Step 5
at the Resource Center
NOTE
Do Connect to The Neglect
every 2-3 days or so.
MODULE 1
STEP 4
CONNECT TO
THE NEGLECT
EXERCISE
INSTRUCTIONS
ACKNOWLEDGE THE NEGLECT
Keep doing Acknowledge The Neglect
At least 4 times/day
Whenever feeling anxious.
DEEP CORE WORK IN
Keep doing Deep Core Work In
twice/day
Waking up and Before Bed
ACUPUNTURE POINT
Listen to at least 20 minutes
of Acupuncture Points of your choice.
REPORTING
INSTRUCTIONS
Remember to submit your reports 5 x day
Or access reports at Module 1 - Resource Center